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Changes To My Bay Area Reporter Column

Readers of my Bay Area Reporter column, you will notice in future issues I will now be writing more broadly about LGBTQ sexuality and relationships. I will still be covering the kink/leather scene often, but the entire range of kink is increasingly permeating so many people’s lives who don’t always identify as kink or leather […]

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I Have Daddy Issues

I was recently interviewed by Race (yes, there’s another Race running around and he’s awesome – Instagram and Twitter) and Matt (also an awesome guy – Instagram and Twitter) for their Daddy Issues podcast. It was lots of fun and you’ll learn some things about me I might not have divulged before. They were great […]

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I Was At Darklands in Antwerp In Spirit

Although I had to cancel my Darklands trip to Antwerp, at least I was there in spirit. Thanks to Matt of RECON.COM for sending this photo to me. (The idea of Matt licking me made my day.) I also write for RECON. I you’d like to see some of my writings there along with some other […]

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Leather Leadership Conference After-Hours Chat

In 2017 I sat on an after-hours chat panel with Graylin Thornton, Mark Frazier, and Patrick Mulcahey for the Leather Leadership Conference (LLC) in Atlanta. It was a fun trip down memory lane with three of my favorite humans on the planet. Thank you to the LLC Board for making this video available.

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Why Being Lazy Is A Turn Off

Someone asked me recently what I thought would be the “least” sexy thing about a person. I thought about it for a while, a full day in fact, and my answer was “laziness.” Check out my The Least Sexy Human Trait on Medium to learn why I said that.

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Getting Gay Men To Mixed Leather/Kink Events

Leatherfolk, I get this question every so often out of the blue from leather event producers and someone asked again just recently. It’s almost always a difficult conversation because it walks the inclusion/exclusion line, which is perhaps the most debated of topics right now in our scene, and often no one’s 100% satisfied with the […]

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Discovering My Kink

Discovering one’s personal kinks and fetishes can be a deeply personal journey. My friend Alexander Cheves was nice enough to include me in his How 6 Kinksters Found Their Kink article in which I and five other kinksters tell how we uncovered our kinky side.

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It Takes a Village

I delivered this speech on November 3, 2018 as the keynote address at Wicked in the West held in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. Good evening. I’m having a great time here at Wicked in the West. I’m sure you are too. Thank you to everyone involved in creating and running this event. I know often producers […]

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You Think That’s Tradition?

Go deep into the bowels of almost any sector of the leather scene today and you’re likely to hear at least one person mouthing off in complaint about things not being the way they used to be. “What about tradition?” “They’re dishonoring our history.” “That’s not how someone works their way up through the leather […]

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