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What’s Love Got To Do With It?

I delivered this speech on October 15, 2016 as the keynote address at Beyond Vanilla event held in Dallas, Texas. It’s a bit different than many of my usual speeches. Good evening. I’m having a great time here at Beyond Vanilla. I hope you are too. Thanks to everyone involved in creating and running this event. […]

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Getting Along

A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. You will find the original online version here. As a long-time kinkster, I have observed many changes and trends in the leather and kink networks since the early 70s. We’ve moved from a fairly small scene that mostly frequented the underbelly of […]

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Let’s Celebrate Being Kinky

A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. You will find the original online version here. This post is about celebrating our kinkiness. Obviously that means I’m assuming you who are reading this consider yourself kinky. If you don’t, keep reading anyway. You’ll hopefully find this interesting. When we choose […]

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Honor History, Don’t Copy It

This speech was delivered on March 29, 2015 as the keynote address at the Colorado Leather Fest event held in Denver, Colorado. Good morning. I’ve had a really good time on this maiden voyage of this new Colorado Leatherfest event. I hope you have also. Thanks to everyone involved in creating and running this event. You’ve […]

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Opening Our Kinky Minds

A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. You will find the original online version here. An odd thing has happened in the wake of the technological revolution regarding how we hookup and otherwise connect with each other erotically. Unlike what I remember from the pre-internet era, nowadays I hear […]

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It’s All About Fun

This speech was delivered on February 14, 2015 as the Saturday dinner keynote address at the Southeast Conference of Clubs (SECC) annual event held in Orlando, FL. A video of this speech was recorded and can be viewed here. Good evening. I’ve had a really good time this weekend and I hope you have also. Everyone […]

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Depression Among Kinksters

A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. The resources mentioned are mostly from the local San Francisco Bay Area, but the main content of the post and some of the resources will prove useful to anyone. You will find the original online version here. One of the most beautiful […]

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Supporting Younger Kinksters

A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. You will find the original online version here. In a local Facebook group comprised mostly of Bay Area kinky gay men, a discussion took place as the result of someone posting about the formation of a group for under 40 guys. This […]

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The Truth About Old Guard

A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. You will find the original online version here. As I walked through the most recent Folsom Street Fair and participated in a few of the Leather Pride Week events, it struck me how much the scene has changed in recent years. I […]

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Our Scene Is Just Fine

This post is a portion of what was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter for which I write a regular leather and kink column. I wrote it right after attending the Up Your Alley street fair in San Francisco, an annual street fair targeted primarily at a kinky gay male audience. You will find the original […]

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