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Why Being Lazy Is A Turn Off

Someone asked me recently what I thought would be the “least” sexy thing about a person. I thought about it for a while, a full day in fact, and my answer was “laziness.” Check out my The Least Sexy Human Trait on Medium to learn why I said that.

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Getting Gay Men To Mixed Leather/Kink Events

Leatherfolk, I get this question every so often out of the blue from leather event producers and someone asked again just recently. It’s almost always a difficult conversation because it walks the inclusion/exclusion line, which is perhaps the most debated of topics right now in our scene, and often no one’s 100% satisfied with the […]

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Discovering My Kink

Discovering one’s personal kinks and fetishes can be a deeply personal journey. My friend Alexander Cheves was nice enough to include me in his How 6 Kinksters Found Their Kink article in which I and five other kinksters tell how we uncovered our kinky side.

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It Takes a Village

I delivered this speech on November 3, 2018 as the keynote address at Wicked in the West held in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. Good evening. I’m having a great time here at Wicked in the West. I’m sure you are too. Thank you to everyone involved in creating and running this event. I know often producers […]

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You Think That’s Tradition?

Go deep into the bowels of almost any sector of the leather scene today and you’re likely to hear at least one person mouthing off in complaint about things not being the way they used to be. “What about tradition?” “They’re dishonoring our history.” “That’s not how someone works their way up through the leather […]

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Promotion Versus Attraction

Sometimes I’ll be in the middle of a discussion with other leatherfolk or kinksters and the topic of “who belongs” in certain kink environments comes up. This seems to arise more often amid people who identify with leather as opposed to those who identify as kink, but it’s still a common area of discussion in […]

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Kink Exceptionalism

“No, you’re not that special.” As I was reading an interesting book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, by Mark Manson, a chapter section titled “The Tyranny of Exceptionalism” struck me as pertinent to modern day kink. (Note: I liked the book. I suggest you buy […]

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The Case for Better Polyamory Representation

A friend of mine, Stormy Styles, related strongly to a recent post she saw on Facebook. She copied and edited the text a bit to add some of her own thoughts, then posted it to her Facebook timeline. The reaction was remarkable. The post was quickly shared and copied and widely discussed. I copied and […]

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When Your Erotic Identity Is Damaged

There is an assumption that there are certain people so confident in their sexuality and erotic identities that nothing can challenge those aspects of their lives. Nothing could be further from the truth. I am living proof. This isn’t easy to talk about. Our society as well as our sexual and kink subcultures worship at […]

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Clean Whiteboard Sex

As I’ve pursued my own flavor of a sex life, I’ve noticed something creeping in that I didn’t like. Sex had become a game of matching up a somewhat rigid list of turns ons and turn offs, dos and don’ts. If someone who was potentially interesting sexually came into my awareness, my first instinct often […]

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