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The Era of Style

As someone who came out into the alternative sex scene in the early 70’s, I believe that time period was the midst of an era I call the Era of Awareness. It was during this time that kinky folks began to network and gather in earnest. No longer was kink something to be pursued as […]

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Avoiding A Sexual Agenda

One of the advantages of getting older is that hopefully we get wiser. A bit of wisdom I’ve gleaned from my years of experience is to try and approach sex and all erotic play with a minimum of an agenda. Let me explain. The human mind is an amazing thing. It can construct astoundingly complex […]

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5 Questions – Answered by Frank Strona

Periodically I’ll ask someone within the nontraditional (alternative) sexuality or relationship communities 5 specific questions. Here are one person’s answers. If you could offer people in your community just one bit of advice based on your experience, what would it be? Remember that what you see when you look at me, doesn’t mean that you […]

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The Ultimate Technique

When you attend any of the various local, national or international leather/kink events you’ll often encounter an offering of classes on BDSM and other kinky sexual techniques. Clubs and organizations within those sexual communities often host such training sessions as well. Why? Because to engage in some types of erotic play requires information and training […]

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Playing Both Sides

Next week a good friend of mine and I are going to be speaking to a workshop class here in the San Francisco Bay Area on the topic of switching. We’ve taught this workshop before and it was a huge success and we’ve been asked by two other organizations to teach the same class to […]

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Three’s Company

This is an article I wrote originally published in Frontiers Newsmagazine in 2001 for their Valentine’s Day issue. Since the article was published many years ago, I’ve changed the names of the people interviewed should they no longer want to be identified. Every Valentine’s Day couples around the world celebrate their love for each other. […]

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5 Questions – Answered by Gloria Brame

Periodically I’ll ask someone within the nontraditional (alternative) sexuality or relationship communities 5 specific questions. Here are one person’s answers. If you could offer people in your community just one bit of advice based on your experience, what would it be? Be skeptical about every bit of advice and information you get about BDSM on-line […]

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The Trap of Rules

“At birth a person is soft and yielding, and at death stiff and hard. All beings, the grass, the trees: alive, soft and yielding; dead, stiff and hard. Therefore the hard and inflexible are friends to death. The soft and yielding are friends of life. An unyielding army is destroyed. An unbending tree breaks. The […]

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Competing Axioms – SSC or RACK?

BDSM and related kink have endured a bad rap for a long time. Some of this is due to those rare individuals who engage in improper or dangerous behavior and call it BDSM. But most of the bad reputation stems from ignorance. In an effort to eradicate this ignorance, both among the public at large […]

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