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BDSM Education, Has It Gone Too Far?

This post is a general response to a lot of online posts and discussions lately surrounding the topic of education within the BDSM and kink communities. I’m probably going to get a lot of crap for what I’m about to say, but so be it. Also, please realize that I say what I’m about to […]

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Yes, There Is A Cost To Mainstreaming

Currently, there is a contentious debate going on in San Francisco regarding whether to ban public nudity. For quite a while San Francisco has been fine with the occasional nudist strolling the streets or hanging out in a park. Much of that nudity has been taking place in the Castro, my own neighborhood, what many […]

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We Need To Let The Younger Guys Take Over

Before I start rambling here, let me state upfront that this post is specifically for gay leathermen. It’s not a topic that’s as relevant for others. With that said… Today I had a chat with a casual friend of mine who is a long-time leatherman. He was excited that a former leather bar of ours […]

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Upcoming Leatherati Town Hall On BDSM Education

In my recent Are Our Educational Efforts Backfiring post I mentioned some concerns I have about the educational efforts offered by some kink clubs, organizations and events. I still stand by those concerns and I think you’ll see by the incredibly thoughtful and plentiful comments that post generated that it’s a hot topic these days. The […]

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San Francisco Leather Contingent in 2012 Pride Parade

I was honored to be selected as the men’s Leather Marshal for this year’s Leather Contingent in the San Francisco Pride Parade alongside the beautiful Leland Carina as the women’s Leather Marshal. Check out the video to see the entire contingent. I think we represented the kink/leather folks rather well and we all had a great […]

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Are Our Educational Efforts Backfiring?

Last night I attended a wonderful birthday dinner with a few amazing, and I think brilliant, fellow kinksters and the topic of education and outreach came up. It once again sparked some of my concerns. One of the contemporary common themes throughout the organized kink networks, especially among BDSM practitioners, is the need for education […]

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The Cat Is Out Of The Bag

Today I was scanning my usual morning news sites when I stumbled on this Pecs, Personality, and Pre-Internet Bonding: The Story of International Mr. Leather article on The Huffington Post site. All of a sudden I had an odd reaction. For the first time ever, I seriously wondered to myself if perhaps the leather/kink scene has […]

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How Out Are You?

Today I stumbled upon a great blog post by Steve Pavlina titled Why Are You Hiding? It immediately resonated with me. One of my own personal development objectives is to be the authentic me as much as possible in everything that I do. Do I always succeed? No. But clearly Steve Pavlina has a similar perspective and […]

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