This post is a general response to a lot of online posts and discussions lately surrounding the topic of education within the BDSM and kink communities. I’m probably going to get a lot of crap for what I’m about to say, but so be it. Also, please realize that I say what I’m about to […]
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Currently, there is a contentious debate going on in San Francisco regarding whether to ban public nudity. For quite a while San Francisco has been fine with the occasional nudist strolling the streets or hanging out in a park. Much of that nudity has been taking place in the Castro, my own neighborhood, what many […]
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Before I start rambling here, let me state upfront that this post is specifically for gay leathermen. It’s not a topic that’s as relevant for others. With that said… Today I had a chat with a casual friend of mine who is a long-time leatherman. He was excited that a former leather bar of ours […]
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The original edition (Version 1.0) of my book Learning The Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking has been out of print for quite a while. I just completed a second edition (Version 2.0) of this book and it is now available as a Kindle eBook on Amazon.com’s site. The new title […]
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I am honored to share space on the pages of The Advocate with my good friend, Gloria Brame, one of the brightest and most vibrant minds writing in the sexuality field today. Check out this article in which we interview each other.
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In my recent Are Our Educational Efforts Backfiring post I mentioned some concerns I have about the educational efforts offered by some kink clubs, organizations and events. I still stand by those concerns and I think you’ll see by the incredibly thoughtful and plentiful comments that post generated that it’s a hot topic these days. The […]
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I was honored to be selected as the men’s Leather Marshal for this year’s Leather Contingent in the San Francisco Pride Parade alongside the beautiful Leland Carina as the women’s Leather Marshal. Check out the video to see the entire contingent. I think we represented the kink/leather folks rather well and we all had a great […]
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Last night I attended a wonderful birthday dinner with a few amazing, and I think brilliant, fellow kinksters and the topic of education and outreach came up. It once again sparked some of my concerns. One of the contemporary common themes throughout the organized kink networks, especially among BDSM practitioners, is the need for education […]
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Today I was scanning my usual morning news sites when I stumbled on this Pecs, Personality, and Pre-Internet Bonding: The Story of International Mr. Leather article on The Huffington Post site. All of a sudden I had an odd reaction. For the first time ever, I seriously wondered to myself if perhaps the leather/kink scene has […]
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Today I stumbled upon a great blog post by Steve Pavlina titled Why Are You Hiding? It immediately resonated with me. One of my own personal development objectives is to be the authentic me as much as possible in everything that I do. Do I always succeed? No. But clearly Steve Pavlina has a similar perspective and […]
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