Ask the Man Who Owns Him: The real lives of gay Masters and slave
By david stein with David Schachter
Published by Perfectbound Press
There have been many books and articles written about master/slave relationships. The fascination with this form of dominance and submission is obvious and writers of varying capabilities have tackled its subject matter. In their new book, Ask the Man Who Owns Him: The real lives of gay Masters and slaves, authors david stein (lack of capitalization his choice) and David Schachter have presented one of the finest works to date.
For me, the brilliance of this book is its sense of reality, not just fantasy. So often writings on the master/slave dynamic are written from a romaticized perspective without the wonders of the reality that this form of relationship can bring to people’s lives should they be so inclined. Through the voices of those interviewed, the authors let the stories be told and what emerges is a robust picture of real-life relationships.
Anyone who knows me knows that I find distasteful any dictatorial positions on what are the right ways and wrong ways to approach sexuality or sexualized relationships. This book thankfully doesn’t do that. Instead, the authors let the interviewees demonstrate clearly that the only “right” master/slave relationship is the one that works for those involved. How refreshing as counterpoint to the more rigid approahces presented elsewhere.
Men and women who might shy away from this book because all of the interview subjects are gay men should reconsider. Its wisdom is generally universal and will apply to dom/sub relationships for men and women of all orientations and persuasions.
As a book with important subject matter, well chosen interview subjects, intelligent questions posed and excellent writing presenting it all, I highly recommend it. If you find this sort of relationship interesting, buy this book. You’ll be glad you did.
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